5 Tips in Dealing with Misunderstanding in Marriage

John Neyman Jr
Dr. John is a counselor and therapist to ADHD children and their parents

In marriage, couples encounter different situations to deal with together.

There is no such thing as perfect marriage or perfect couples. They could be ideal, but they can never perfect the ups and downs of marriage life. In the long run of marriage, there will be lot things married couple encounter that may affect their relationship together. One of which is having misunderstanding. Though you’ve been bind as one and your husband and your wife is your other half, you can’t still deny the fact that you both have different personalities and adjustments to deal with. However if you know how to manage it, you can save your marriage.

Here are the 5 tips you can do to deal with misunderstanding in your marriage:

 1.  Take time to cool down.

When you are at the peak of your emotion, never argue or raise your voice. This usually leads to hurting each others feelings. You can never think straight if you are still boiling with anger. Take time to cool your head down. Take a walk and pray to think over the things that caused the misunderstanding. The moment that you’re already calm, then you can go back and talk about the situation. It’s better to talk with your partner when you’re relaxed.

2. Be transparent with your spouse.

Never keep a secret with your partner especially hidden emotional hurt. It’s better to speak it out and explain it to him or her so that you will both understand and know what really happened and why such misunderstanding occurred. In cases that adjustments are needed to be done, be open for change. Being transparent with each other is good in dealing with your misunderstandings.

 3. Be open for adjustments.

Adjustments are inevitable when it comes to early marriage. If this causes your misunderstanding, do something about it in order to fix things the right way. It will give your partner an idea about what you really feel and will make adjustments the next time same situation may arise.

 4. Lower down your pride.

Though husbands must be the head over your marriage life together, he must know how to lower down his pride especially if he knew it’s his fault why certain misunderstanding arose. As a wife, you must keep yourself humble in your husband’s behalf and never nag about the mistake he did just to prove that you’re right and he’s wrong. When you both know how to lower down your pride, you can fix misunderstanding easily in your marriage and understand each other way more often.

5. Never let the sun go down without settling your misunderstanding.

It may take some time to think about the misunderstanding you both have, but make it to a point to never end the day without fixing it. Sometimes, the longer you linger on a simple misunderstanding, the deeper it gets and the harder it will be fixed.

  Remember, if you want your marriage to stay happy and strong, fix your misunderstanding the earlier the better.

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