One of the common places where bullying happens is the school.
There are students who continuously abuse others physically or psychologically. Bullying sometimes sound simple to others but to the victims of bullying, it can cause a lot problem in their academic, social and psychological lives. One factor why some children bully others is their difficulty on how to manage their anger. They use bullying to express their hidden emotions. Their anger can range from feelings of small annoyance to extreme rage.
Here are some of the anger management techniques that teachers and parents can teach bullies in order for them to learn the ways to productively deal with their anger without harming or bullying others.
Anger Records. This technique will require the bully to record the factors that he has identified that triggers his anger. He will also identify and write down the circumstances that provoke his angry feelings. The teacher and even parents can also encourage the child to write about the specific situation that caused him to be angry, how he reacted to the situation, what the outcome of his actions was and how he should have reacted the right way. These records will help the child to track and be aware of his angry feelings and how he could make changes in his reactions and on his behavior as well. This helps the bully to fully understand the root causes of his anger and develop positive coping skills and alternate behaviors instead of bullying others.
Role-Playing. The teacher can discuss anger management tips and give the students the time to practice the techniques through role-playing exercises after the discussion. The main purpose of the role-playing is for the teacher to show or model the appropriate ways to deal with anger. The teacher can also have the students write and perform skits or scenarios on how they can deal with anger appropriately instead of choosing to bully others.
Telling Stories. For younger students, the teacher can read books and tell stories about successful and healthy ways to deal with anger. Younger children find interest in story telling though they may not express complex emotions. Through parables, they will be able to learn the values and the importance of being good because the main character shows the right way to act and be respectful of others. These stories can help the students understand that it is okay to feel angry at times but it is also important to learn the coping techniques to overcome anger.
Parents’ Participation. Bullies are not expected to learn everything from school. They must also be taught and monitored by their parents at home. Teachers should also discuss with parents about the ways on how their children can cope with anger. Through this, the teacher will be able to share the techniques and skills that were taught to the children. This will help the parents to emphasize and practice the skills with their children at home. This will also encourage them to show and practice good anger management skills as well. For a child who bullies others, speaking with the child’s family can be an important and necessary intervention to stop the behavior. One possible reason why a child bullies others is because of some problems at home. Talking or discussing to the parents may be the first step in getting the needed help for the child and his family.