Parents Guidelines in Managing Anger in Children

John Neyman Jr
Dr. John is a counselor and therapist to ADHD children and their parents

Anger is a feeling associated to one’s psychological explanation of having been offended, mistreated or denied. Anger in children is frequently triggered or caused by frustration. As children, they usually cannot understand their situation. They do not often know how to deal with it or change it. They also feel helpless because they are unable to express or voice out their feelings. Thus most of them respond with anger.

As a parent, it’s your responsibility to properly guide your children on how to deal with their anger issues. Here are some of the guidelines you can relate to.

Whenever your child do something good, gave them positive comments or recognition of their good deed. Through this, they will not feel rejected. Good deeds such as sharing their food or toys, fixing their bed, or doing their homework before playing. They will do it again next time knowing that what they did is right. Whenever a friend will ask for food or borrow a toy, they will not be greedy or irritated about it.

Parents play a vital role guiding their children when it comes to anger issues. Use a number of parenting techniques in dealing with these matters. Choose a right physical intervention to your child. This must be according to their age. Also you have to assess if they respond positively on this action, because others will tend to act negatively and will just increase the anger and this issue will still not be resolved. However to other children, this may be a help to them from their wrong reaction when anger is at raged long enough to get some control over it.

Talking it out with your child and use bargaining as needed. A child is a child. They often respond to rewards and bargaining to control their own behavior. When they are mad, you can offer them something that they will get distracted from the anger they feel. This is not the same as bribery or blackmailing your child. You just have to make certain that you know what your child likes or what is important to him or her that will serve as a good motivator to deal with their anger.

Set as an example for your children. You must be aware that you are a great influence to your child’s behavior. Every action that your child sees at you, they tend to imitate thinking it’s the right thing to do. If you speak bad words when you’re mad, don’t be surprised once your child does it as well. If you try to manage your anger properly when you’re angry, your child will follow this good example also.

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