Tips in Dealing with your Sister and Brother in-laws after Marriage

John Neyman Jr
Dr. John is a counselor and therapist to ADHD children and their parents

The moment you get married, it’s not just the husband you are about to adjust with, it also involves your sister and brother in-laws.

You may be surprised with the character they possessed the moment you are one of the family already. It is something to be look forward believe it or not. Never expect that everything will turn out the way you want it to be. Most of the time, it is the opposite of what you expect to happen. However, there are in-laws that are open-minded and minor adjustments are to be made. But there are those with major issues that you need to deal with.

Here are some tips in dealing with your sister and brother in-laws after marriage:

1. Never expect too much from them.

Before marriage, there are times that your in-laws are seemed nice and good to you. Like there are only minimal things to deal with. The time you get married and deal with them, real characters are revealed. So never expect too much from them. Always remember that they are not perfect. Always give room for change.

 2. Be open-minded

In every situation be open-minded in terms of dealing with them for your marriage not to be affected. Sometimes it is hard, but you need to face it with an open-mind. There will be situations that you will face that all you have to do is lay back and understand it before you react. Family relationship after marriage is important and not to be taken for granted.

 3. Be patient.

Patience is a virtue and yes, this can be applied on dealing with your brother and sister in-laws. You can’t react negatively or aggressively that easy. Remember your spouse. It is their family as well so you better respond the right way. This may be hard sometimes but you need to be patient in order for you to save your marriage relationship with good conduct towards your in-laws.

 4. Learn to appreciate them.

Sometimes they can’t give exactly what you want. Yet you need to appreciate them. Simple things they do for you are to be thanked for. It is something you need to practice and learn. Appreciation may lead for them to feel good and positive in a way towards you.

There are a lot to be dealt with your brother and sister in-laws after marriage. The important thing is that you walk right and have that heart to walk in love and not to compete or hate them. It may not be that easy to do, but sometimes the way up is down. When you humble yourself towards them you will never lose, you will always win.

Marriage is a promise of two couples to love each other and those they love as well.

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